I remember the day my college trumpet professor talked to me about habits. We were working through a piece of music, and he identified a habit in my playing that was holding me back.
“Habits are stubborn and stupid, just like that donkey over there,” he said, as he pointed at a plastic donkey he had on his desk.
He was right. Habits are stupid because the same behavior continues whether it is good for you or not. Habits are also stubborn because the more you fight against them, the more they fight back. Fighting a habit is a losing battle. In this article, I’m going to show you that you don’t have to fight your habits anymore. You can simply change them using hypnosis as the tool.
What are habits?
Habits are automated behaviors that serve a function or meet a certain need. Most people associate habit with something bad. However, we all have many good habits. In fact, it would be impossible to get through the day without many of these automated behaviors. Most habits serve us quite well. But there are a few that don’t. Bad habits can keep you from moving towards your goals. Understanding habits is key to changing them.
How do habits work?
The most important thing to understand about habits is that they serve a function. They exist to meet a need. But, without another strategy in place to meet that need, your efforts will fall short.
An excellent resource on habits is: The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg.
In the book, Duhigg identifies 3 components to habits: the cue, the habitual behavior, and the reward. Every habit contains these three parts. The cue is the signal, or trigger, that initiates the habit. For example, if you have a habit of coming home from work and drinking a beer, then arriving at home would be the cue. After you’ve had your beer, you might feel calmer and less stressed. That’s the reward. The reward is the need the habit meets.
According to Duhigg, the moment you begin to crave the reward, a habit has been established. It’s not the habit that you’re attached to, it’s the reward.
Starting a new habit
The way to “break” a habit is to start a new one. It’s actually impossible to break a habit. Going back to our beer example, the harder you try not to drink beer, the more difficult it becomes. This is because haven’t found a new way to meet the need the habit fulfills. As a result, you will go back to your “default” of drinking a beer to deal with stress.
Remember, it’s not the beer you’re craving, it’s the reward. So once you find something else to supply the same reward, you have replaced the habit. Maybe you decide to switch from beer to self-hypnosis. Once your self-hypnosis sessions supply the same reward as the beer, you can now stop drinking. When you come home from work, you do a self-hypnosis session, and get the reward of being calmer with less stress.
How hypnosis helps with habits
Changing habits is not always so easy. You need to do some self-analysis to figure out each of the components of the habit you desire to change. Also, finding a suitable replacement can be hit-or-miss. You might need to try a few replacements to find one that works.
Hypnosis is highly effective in working with habits because you’re able to address the subconscious reasons for the habit. You can get insights into your current habits and find replacements for them much quicker with hypnosis. Hypnosis will help you get in touch with what is at the core of your habit, and help give you the resources you need to change it.
Whatever habits you’re looking to change or improve, you can bet that hypnosis will help you achieve positive change faster and easier. Give me a call to get started on the habits that will turn you into a goal-achieving machine! -SM
by Sean Maness, CHP