I used to go to a law of attraction group every week. Unfortunately, the only thing these people “attracted” was more of what they don’t want. They failed to make any positive changes in their lives. Unfortunately, that’s how most people “use” the law of attraction.
You don’t use the law of attraction. You ARE the law of attraction.
Whether you realize it or not, you are creating your reality every minute of every day. Every thought you think, every emotion you feel, every word you speak, and everything on which you focus influences your life. This article is your no BS guide to purposefully creating what you want.
Let me start with a disclaimer. There is nothing you can just “think about” which magically “fixes” your life. If you think that there’s any secret that can replace hard work and taking action, you’re mistaken. If you’re looking for a magic wand, you’re in the wrong place. I recommend hitting the back button.
Now, before we begin, let’s talk about some prerequisites needed to get the law of attraction to work for you.
Prerequisites to creating what you want in life
The information contained in this article presupposes that you already have a certain mindset about life. If you don’t have certain ideas in place, this article, nor any other self-improvement information will help you.
Here’s the first prerequisite: you must take full responsibility for your life. This includes owning everything that happens in you life, for better or worse.
Taking responsibility seems simple enough, but many people don’t do it. They blame others such as their husband, their boss, their children, or any other convenient scapegoat. If you want a guaranteed way to NOT get what you want, keep blaming.
Be willing to acknowledge that you, and only you, create your experience of life. You’re the only one who has the power to change anything.
Complaining is almost as bad as blaming. Complaining happens from a position of weakness. When you complain about something in your life, you are admitting that you are powerless to change it. A confident person does not complain. They do something about what’ s not working. If there’s a circumstance that you’re not happy with, stop complaining and take action to change it. I mentioned in my opening story that I used to go to a law of attraction class. Some of those people went to that class for years with absolutely nothing to show for it. Why? Because they never gave up blaming or complaining.
Stop making excuses
Finally, stop making excuses. Are you too old, too young, too poor, too sick, or too fat, to achieve what you want in life? Or course not! People of all sizes, from all economic backgrounds, and from all walks of life succeed in getting what they want. You can be one of them, if you give up all your excuses.
Now that you have given up blaming, complaining, and excuse making, let’s get into the meat and potatoes of the law of attraction.
The #1 secret to successfully using the law of attraction is to identify and change your limiting beliefs
The law of attraction is the idea that like attracts like. You “vibrate” at a certain frequency. As a result, you attract other people and situations that are also vibrating at that frequency. That’s the theory.
Now let’s approach the law of attraction from a more practical point of view. Actually, you’re not attracting anything. Your brain is wired to compel you to act in ways that reinforce your beliefs. In short, your beliefs are the code that directs your motivations and actions. It is the results of these actions that become your life experience.
The law of correspondence is the idea that the quality of your mental state determines the quality of your life. In order for you to make a positive change your life, you must first change the quality of your beliefs.
How your beliefs create your life experience
Your beliefs are the executable code that drives the results in your life. Your mind is the computer hardware, and beliefs are the software. Just like the saying goes in computer programming – garbage in, garbage out. You cannot put error-filled code into a computer and have it output a positive result. It just can’t happen. The same is true for your mind. If your experience of life is different than you would like it to be, it means there is an error in the programming of your mind. Find and correct the error, and your life changes. That’s essentially what self-development is – finding and correcting the errors in your thinking.
How your beliefs become your behavior
Ralph Waldo Emerson said that the ancestor of every action is a thought. Sure, you have free will. But, your actions are predetermined by your thoughts to a much greater extent than you realize. Take a look at the diagram I drew above.
The quality of your beliefs determine the quality of your emotions. In other words, if your beliefs are positive, you feel good. If your beliefs are negative, your emotions will also be predominantly negative. The strongest, most dominant emotion is what drives your behavior. Your behavior produces the results you achieve in life.
Emotions are the key to motivation
Your emotions determine your motivation in life. As humans, we do what we feel like doing, not what we think we should be doing. Your degree of success is contingent on acting in positive, resourceful ways on a regular basis. In order to create a positive, sustained effort on your goals, you need to cultivate certain level of motivation.
Limiting beliefs keep you doing the things that don’t work
Let me give you an example. Suppose you want to lose weight. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that if you want to be skinny, you need to do the things that skinny people do. Your beliefs about yourself as an overweight person compels you to do the things that overweight people do. If you find your limiting beliefs about your weight and change them, you will be motivated to do the things that result in weight loss.
Your beliefs determine what type of people show up in your life
Here’s another example of belief in action. Say you’re on a bus with standing room only. You notice that someone has placed their guitar on the seat next to them. If that person would only move the guitar, several more other people could sit down. People are so rude, you grumble to yourself. You are reinforcing the belief that people are fundamentally rude. As long as you hold this belief, rude people will continue to show up in your life. Now that you know how beliefs direct your actions, let’s take a look at how the mind works.
How your mind works
I would like to introduce the concept known as the triune mind. This is a model of the mind that we use as hypnosis professionals to explain the various functions of the mind. As the name suggests, the mind consists of 3 parts: the conscious mind, the subconscious mind, and the super-conscious mind.
The conscious mind
First, let’s turn our attention to the conscious mind. As the name implies, the conscious mind is the part of the mind that you are aware of, such as your everyday thoughts. The conscious mind is the logical thinking part of your mind.
The critical factor
Take a look at the red lines on the diagram above. That is the critical factor – the filtering part of your mind. The critical factor filters based on your existing beliefs. You can think of the critical factor as the gatekeeper of the subconscious mind. The critical factor analyses incoming ideas and rejects the ones that don’t fit your existing programming. The critical factor often thwarts personal growth. One of the top benefits of hypnosis is ability to bypass the mind’s critical mechanism, allowing new ideas to reach the subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind
The subconscious mind is the “do-er.” Although the conscious mind may think it’s in charge, it’s actually the subconscious mind that creates your experience of life. This is because the subconscious mind is like a giant hard drive that stores your beliefs. We have already discussed how beliefs affect your life, but now, let’s talk about what beliefs are, and where they come from.
What are beliefs?
A belief is any idea you think is true. Beliefs have no basis in reality. Instead, they are thoughts, attitudes, and ideas that you have accepted. Beliefs are the driving force of your every experience in life – the good, the bad, and the ugly. Beliefs fall into several categories – what we believe about ourselves, other people, the world, and higher power.
Where do beliefs come from?
Beliefs come from early childhood, religion, mass consciousness, and even beer bottles. Everything you see, hear, or feel is potentially programming your mind. Most of your beliefs were formed in childhood between the ages of 7 and 11.
Beliefs are most easily formed in the presence of an authority figure, your peer group, during high emotion events, with repetition, and in altered states of consciousness (such as hypnosis).
Beliefs are what you decide an event means about you
Consider an example of how a belief is formed. Maybe you failed a math test in the 5th grade. “I’m so stupid,” you think to yourself as you receive your score. Now, the idea of being stupid in math has become a belief that will stay with you for a very long time, perhaps all of your life. Furthermore, failing a test involves multiple authority figures such as the teacher and your parents, making it even more likely that you will form a limiting belief.
You see, once formed, beliefs will never change. You can change beliefs, but it will take work. This is because your subconscious mind takes everything literally. As a result, your subconscious sees every each one of your beliefs as an undeniable fact. You will always behave in line with those “facts.”
How to get what you want in life
In order to use the law of attraction, you need to specific exactly what you want. Ask yourself what type of person would achieve that goal. Then, you must become that person in your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. That’s what I help my clients do. I help them discover what they want. Then, I help them find and correct the “errors” in their belief system. As a result, they become a law of attraction machine – extremely motivated to take action and achieve their desired outcomes.
Your beliefs are mental habits
Your beliefs are mental habits that have been reinforced over a long period of time. I like to think about habits as neurological grooves, very similar to the grooves in a record. Each time you think a certain thought, it reinforces the mental groove.
Once those grooves reach a certain critical mass, they become habits, or automatic patterns of thought. Because you can’t constantly monitor your thoughts, the best way to change your thinking is to form new mental habits.
How long does it change to change beliefs?
As I stated above, changing beliefs involves changing metal habits. Doing so can take time. While it is possible to instantly shift beliefs in certain cases, you will find that most of your progress will be a series of small steps that you make over a long period of time. Just like the story of the tortoise and the hare, slow and steady wins the race. Spending 10-20 minutes a day programming your mind will be one of the best investments you ever make. You might not notice changes right away. Slowly but surely, you will experience the benefit of your news ways of thinking.
It can take up to 90 days to form a robust, self-sustaining belief. However, once you have completed 90 days of reprogramming, you have achieved permanent transformation! Once the new, positive beliefs are formed, you will forever experience the benefits of that mental change work. Changing beliefs is something that takes discipline, but the results are well worth it!
Fake it until you make it
While you’re working on programming your new beliefs, you will experience resistance to change. Such resistance is a normal and natural part of the process. One solution to overcome resistance is to “fake it until you make it.” If you don’t feel like a confident person yet, that’s OK. Just pretend you are! That’s how children learn most everything – by pretending!
Some days, you’re just not going to be feeling like you’re making progress. That’s OK. Fake it until you make it, and keep programming those new beliefs until they become habits!
The process of transforming your beliefs – identifying, reversing, and programming new beliefs.
The process of transforming your beliefs is based primarily on this principle: two opposing beliefs cannot be held in the mind at the same time. For example, you can’t believe that you’re stupid and intelligent at the same time. Whatever idea is dominant in your mind will prevail as the driving force of your behavior.
The fact that the mind can’t accept two opposing ideas works in your favor when it comes to personal development. All you have to do is identify a limiting belief, reverse it into a positive, then reinforce that new belief until it becomes a habit. When the new belief becomes a habit, the old one is effectively eliminated.
Identifying false beliefs
As I stated earlier, your beliefs are not facts. They are ideas that you have accepted or decided. Your task is to identify the limited ideas that are creating patterns of self-sabotage in your life. The best way to identify your limiting beliefs is a special process of self-inquiry. I have prepared a PDF to help you with this process. If you are serious about changing your mindset for the better, you will download and use this guide. The download link will appear at the end of this article.
Reversing false beliefs
After you’ve identified the ideas that limit you, simply reverse the negative aspects of those beliefs into positives. For example, if one of your limiting ideas is: “I’m lazy,” you might think about the word you would use to describe the opposite of “lazy.” One way you might reverse “I am lazy” is “I am energetic.”
Staying on track with your thinking
Regardless of how many times you program your mind with new beliefs, your mind won’t accept them unless you take control over your daily thoughts. Become aware of your thoughts as you go through the day. Anytime you are aware of a thought that goes against your new beliefs, say “cancel, cancel,” and replace it with a positive thought. Each time you do this, you are retraining your mind to focus on what you desire to experience.
The super-conscious mind – your secret to having anything you want
Now I’m going to tell you the secret to experiencing all the goodness life has to offer. There’s one more part of the mind that we didn’t talk about. This part of the mind is absent from most law of attraction teachings. It is your super-conscious mind. This part of your mind is your problem-solving intelligence. It is the part of your mind that knows the answer to every problem and knows how to achieve any goal.
Your super-conscious mind is your spiritual center. It is your connection the All that is, The Universe, or God, depending on your specific beliefs. In short, your super-conscious mind represents your unlimited potential. Although the answers are already within you, you may not have access to this problem-solving intelligence at all. This is because negativity and limiting patterns of thought lead to a suppression of this natural wisdom.
The key to experiencing more of your divine super-conscious nature is to systematically eliminate negativity from your mind. It is in the absence of negativity that you experience your divine nature and your creative problem-solving intelligence.
Summary – identifying, reversing, and programming limiting ideas
You truly can have anything you desire in life. However, you will only be able to create the conditions in life that are consistent with your beliefs. In order to expand your life, expand your beliefs. To do so, take the following steps:
- Set an outcome by determining what you would like to achieve
- Determine what beliefs stand in the way of you achieving that outcome
- Reverse those limiting ideas into positive suggestions
- Program those positive suggestions for 60-90 days/use affirmations, meditation, hypnosis
- Repeat steps 1-4 until you achieve everything you desire
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